The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down

The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down

CHAPTER 1

Rest

Why Am I So Busy?

When Life Disappoints, Rest a Moment

CHAPTER 2

Mindfulness

Befriend Your Emotions

When You Are Feeling Low

CHAPTER 3

Passion

Temper Your Eagerness

Being Right Isn't Important; Being Happy Together Is

CHAPTER 4

Relationships

The Art of Maintaining a Good Relationship

The Journey of Forgiveness

CHAPTER 5

Love

First Love

I Love Your Ordinariness

CHAPTER 6

Life

Do You Know Kung Fu?

Three Liberating Insights

CHAPTER 7

The Future

One Word of Encouragement Can Change the Future

When You Look for Your Calling

Spirituality

Long-Lost Cousins

Two Spiritual Paths in One Family

Some say they don't really know what they are looking for in life.

This might be because, instead of getting in touch with how they feel, they have led their lives according to other people's expectations. Live your life not to satisfy others, but to fulfill what your heart desires.

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My dear young friend,

please don't feel discouraged

just because you are slightly behind.

Life isn't a hundred-meter race against your friends,

but a lifelong marathon against yourself.

Rather than focusing on getting ahead of your friends,

first try to discover your unique color.

"Haemin Sunim, I hope you become a great teacher like the Dalai Lama."

"Thank you for your kindness. I deeply admire His Holiness.

But I don't want to become the Dalai Lama.

I would like to become Haemin Sunim."

Don't flit here and there like a school of fish

just because that is what your friends do

or because others say it is what you should do.

Stand by your convictions.

Upend the existing paradigm

and become a trendsetter.

There are things I would have liked to teach my child if I'd had one: No matter how famous, powerful, or rich some people are,

they are not very different from anyone else.

We long for deep connection and unconditional acceptance.

We have the same insecurities and need for approval.

There is no reason to feel inferior.

GAMES PEOPLE PLAY

THE PSYCHOLOGY OF HUMAN RELATIONSHIDS

PART ONE

ANALYSIS OF GAMES

1 Structural Analysis 2 Transactional Analysis 3 Procedures and Rituals 4 Pastimes 5 Games

PART TWO

A THESAURUS OF GAMES

Introduction

6 Life Games

1. Alcoholic

2. Debtor

3. Kick Me

4. Now I've Got You, You Son of a Bitch

5. See What You Made Me Do

7 Marital Games

1. Corner

2. Courtroom

3. Frigid Woman

4. Harried

5. If It Weren't for You 6. Look How Hard I've Tried 7. Sweetheart

8 Party Games

1. Ain't It Awful

2. Blemish

3. Schlemiel

4. Why Don't You - Yes But

9 Sexual Games

1. Let's You and Him Fight

2. Perversion

3. Rapo

4. The Stocking Game

5. Uproar

10 Underworld Games

1. Cops and Robbers

2. How Do You Get Out of Here

3. Let's Pull a Fast One on Joey

11 Consulting Room Games

1. Greenhouse

2. I'm Only Trying to Help You

3. Indigence

4. Peasant

5. Psychiatry

6. Stupid

7. Wooden Leg

12 Good Games

1. Busman's Holiday

2. Cavalier

3. Happy to Help

4. Homely Sage 5. They'll Be Glad Thev Knew Me

PART THREE

BEYOND GAMES

13 The Significance of Games

14 The Players

15 A Paradigm

16 Autonomy

17 The Attainment of Autonomy

18 After Games, What

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